Drops of Style: How to Make An Impressive First Impression

Jul 27, 2010 Drops of Style

While most of us believe that it is the inner self that matters more than outward apperance, studies has proven otherwise as it relates to First Impression. In fact, an individual is making a first impression based upon that individuals image within 7 seconds . This Impression normally consist of Appearance, Style of Dress, Body Language, and Mannerism. Statistics states that 7 % of a first impression is a individual choice of words, 38 % is the tone of the individual, and 55 % is appearance. So actually, the human race pay more attention on how a person look, rather then what is being said. Whether one likes it or not appearance is the primary aspect of making a good First Impression.

Here are some vital keys that can help you make the best first impression:

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Tags: clothing, how to, Interview, jobs, professonials, style

I Better Find Your Loving…but Then What?

Jul 26, 2010 Free Flow

Love, the ultimate feeling that we all crave to experience at one point in our lives.  Some of us are in love with the thought of being in love.  Some of us desire to love and be love by another so bad that all of the focus is placed on finding love and what’s to happen afterwards is left to be figured out at the latter.  As a result we find ourselves rushing into relationships, opening our hearts faster than a drive thru order and then wonder why we end up broken.

To me love is a beautiful and tender place that needs to be taken care when you arrive.  Moreover, it’s a place where the journey is just as important as the arrival.  Why rush it?   Why do like Drake and sing I better find your love but  have the slightest idea about what you will do when you get it?  Just like a man with out a vision for his life will perish,  a couple without a vision for the love will perish.  I tend to think of love as an on going process that takes effort and thought to do everyday of our lives and one that doesn’t have that understand before love is amongst them, the dance can end in devastation.

So I admonish you, to not be hasty in this love thing.  I you want to ensure that love is mutual between you and your mate, that it is genuine and has potential for further development, it is important for you to take your time and let love happen not force it.  Better, get to know one another well enough so that when you choose to love, your choice is not regretted afterwards.

If my thoughts resonate with you and you have found your self in a situation where you were open to love, but you wanted to take it a little slower; below I have an awesome blog that I found on yahoo shine that may help.  The blog gives five ways that a person can slow down the dating process without making their love interest feel like they are being abandoned.

Know the difference between a tide and an undertow

“I think people have to allow for a bit of a giddy whirlwind,” says Lynn Harris, relationship expert and author of He Loved Me, He Loves Me Not, who married her husband just a year after they met. “People who spend too much time analyzing what’s going on and playing it safe suck all the romance out of it.” Even so, there is a big difference between being swept up and feeling completely out of control. So ask yourself: If your new love interest asks you to do something you’re uncomfortable with — say, heading to a dicey-looking club on your second date — do you feel fine voicing your reservations, or do you sweep them under the rug to avoid ruining the moment? “If you feel like you have to act a certain way, then that’s a sign you’re not comfortable with this person. You’re just comfortable with the idea of being in a whirlwind romance,” points out Harris. Bottom line, any long-term relationship needs your input, good and bad. More on how to do that next…

Slow things down without hurting anyone’s feelings

If you think things are rushing along too quickly, you owe it to the relationship to say so. However, avoid the usual lines like “I think we need to take things slower” or “I need some space” — these clichés will only set off alarm bells and make your amour think you’re trying to wiggle out of the relationship. Instead, be specific by explaining, “I’d love to see you this weekend, but a friend of mine is going through a rough time so I’m going to hang out with her” or “A work project is killing me and I’ll feel better if I hunker down and finish it so I can relax the next time we’re together.” If your date presses the issue, put his or her fears to rest by framing your time apart as a way to keep your relationship healthy for the long run. Say, “I’m really into you and I don’t want to mess this up by moving too fast.” To reassure your sweetie further, make a plan to see each other on a date you’ll be more available — that way your date’s not left hanging and wondering if the relationship’s on the rocks.

*Don’t act on every impulse

Are you thinking of your sweetie and tempted to call to say so… for the fifth time that day? That’s sweet, but before you dial the digits, know this: not all impulses are meant to be acted upon. “People misinterpret feelings for phone calls. They don’t have to be one and the same,” says Harris. “Just sit back and enjoy the buzz. Enjoy the fact that you just hung up the phone and want to pick it up again. That’s awesome.” And enough already! This rule especially holds true for emailing and instant messaging — mediums that encourage you to reveal all sorts of personal info but that can easily breed a false sense of intimacy. So before hitting that “send” button, ask yourself: Would you feel comfortable coughing up this info in person? If not, save it for later.

*Curb conversations about the future

So you’d love to take a romantic cruise to Alaska together this fall. Or you’ve always dreamt of having your wedding on the beach at sunset. Or you’re certain you want at least three kids, ideally five. Discussing your future dreams with your new flame may seem really romantic, but indulging in it too often can be a red flag. “This indicates that you’re more into the idea of being in a relationship than with the actual person in front of you,” points out Laurie Puhn, J.D., author of Instant Persuasion: How to Change Your Words To Change Your Life. If your conversations tend to veer in that direction, consider an “activity date” like going to an art museum or taking a walk in the park which will force you to focus on things right in front of you — as well as each other.

*Wait to say “I love you” (even if you think you do)

When you’re in a relationship that feels so right, it can be tempting to utter those three little worlds on the early side. Harris advises against it: “The first time you feel like saying it, count to 10, go home and say it to your cat,” she says. After all, your feelings could be due to the fact that you two just shared a really romantic evening together. There’s also the risk that the feelings might not be mutual yet. So before you take this step, ask yourself: Will you be able to accept if your date doesn’t say “I love you” back, or will you be crushed? If it’s the latter, then it’s probably best to hold off until more time has passed and you’re more confident about each other’s intentions.

If, on the other hand, you’re on the receiving end of an early “I love you,” don’t feel obliged to say it back if you’re not feeling it yet. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore the overture or, worse yet, give them a lecture about how they couldn’t possibly feel that way so soon. “This person has just made him- or herself really vulnerable, so you want to be careful,” says Harris. Try, “I’m so touched you just said that, and I feel strongly for you. It’s hard for me to use that word right now but feel like I may be getting there, too.” Who knows; maybe you will sooner than you think!

Anna Harris is a freelance writer in New York City. She has only fallen head over heels once — and she married him. And for the record, he said “I love you” first.

This article was written b y….

Corey C’Yo Brown is a 25 year old native from Louisiana who has, since childhood, had a very charismatic personality along with the drive and passion to help others. Described as “a driven, multi-talented, passionate man” this Louisiana native is destined for greatness. His dream and goal to use he personal gifts to help a massive amount of people. This is why Corey chose to pursue his undergraduate degree in Mass Communications and go on even further by obtaining his masters degree from North Carolina Central University in Agency Mental Health Counseling.

Tags: advice, drake, love, relationships

Future Legend or Just a Phase? Nicki Minaj Video Premiere: You Love

Jul 21, 2010 Featured, What's Goin On?

I must say I gave Ms. Nicki (Nik) a hard time when she first hit the main stream but for the record I am now #TeamNickiMinaj.  She hasn’t been officially inducted into my “Winners Circle” (future blog post coming soon) but if she keeps it up, she’ll be on her way.  I’ve always been attracted to individuals who dare to be different.  My attraction to who go against the grain goes across all facets of life but the trait of ‘creativi-ndividuality seems to be intensified and ever more alluring in the lane of artistry.  Nik is definitely carving her place in the industry as an ‘Artist’ not just an average female rapper…I DIG!  I even love how she, like a few other phenomenal music artist, embodies their music when performing it.  It’s simple things like, engaging facial expressions, and body movements that conveys how deep music runs in your veins.  I know only three other artists, that I consider legends, that have mastered the music game by master branding themselves: Beyonce, MJ and Usher.  They are the only the artist I know that have successfully created artist signatures.  For example, all three of them have signature stances that makes spectators feel as if the room is moving while they stand still.  You can look at any performances of Mj, Bey and Usher and you will catch them at one point intently standing still while managing to let power ooze from their pores.  You probably haven’t studies them that much but it doesn’t take away from it having an impact on  you..lol.

Nik is on this same path.  She has already created her own mini signature moves and has taken a style that was successful in the past, added her own flare to it and unlike a few of her predecessors, chick is rhyming without being over saturated with sexual content and innuendo. Why hate?  Speaking of a style from the past, it’s now secret that she was inspired by Kim and I wish so bad that they could have gotten along enough to collab on a track together.  However, when greatness is seeking is place to plant and grow people either embrace or hate it.  I do understand why Kim is angry but I think she could have taken a higher road and embraced Nik’s presence on the scene.  Honestly, I think that beef really lie with Diddy and him recreating a Biggie and Kim connection with Nik and Ross.  Nevertheless, if Nik don’t let up, in my opinion, she will have the beginnings of greatness all over her.

Once she gives us a platinum album, demonstrate longevity and become a household name of the world, I will gladly welcome her into my “Winners Circle”.  Actually, I’m preparing for her induction ceremony because I think it’s a matter of time..lol but that’s just my two scents.  State your thoughts droppers and check out her new video bellow.

Besides the cheesy cry from Michael J White I’m digging the whole concept, look and feel of the video.

This article is written by….

Corey C’Yo Brown is a 25 year old native from Louisiana who has, since childhood, had a very charismatic personality along with the drive and passion to help others. Described as “a driven, multi-talented, passionate man” this Louisiana native is destined for greatness. His dream and goal to use he personal gifts to help a massive amount of people. This is why Corey chose to pursue his undergraduate degree in Mass Communications and go on even further by obtaining his masters degree from North Carolina Central University in Agency Mental Health Counseling.

Tags: Barbie, Hip-Hop, love, MTV, Nicki Minaji, rap, video

Islamic Mosque Neighbors Ground Zero: Should We Prevent This?

Jul 20, 2010 Let's Talk About It: Discussion Board

I’m sure you are familiar with the saying “don’t go adding insult to injury” well a lot of Americans feel like thats exactly what’s going to happen if plans to build a $100 million mosque, just blocks away from the site of the Sept. 11, 2001, attacks goes through.  For some just the thought of having any type of building that is associated with the islamic faith around the place where nearly 3,000 Americans died at the hands of Islamic terrorists is infuriating.  However, it is clearly stated in our national anthem that we are the land of the free which means that if you are a citizen, native or not, you are entitled to purchase land and do what you want with it, right?

According to USA Today the mosque is a project of the American Society for Muslim Advancement and the Cordoba Institute, which promotes cross-cultural understanding between Islam and the West. USA Today also went on to say that Cordoba’s director, Imam Faisel Abdul Rauf, has refused to disclose the sources of funding for the mosque and once suggested in a television interview that U.S. policies contributed to the 9/11 attacks.  This is where the issue comes in.  Exactly where the funding for this building is coming from has everyone on the edge.  Atlas Shrugs Blog spot had a very heated and insightful post about this.  see blow

The 61-year-old Imam said he paid $4.85 million for it — in cash, records show. With 50,000 square feet of air rights and enough financing, he plans an ambitious project of $150 million, he said, akin to the Chautauqua Institution, the 92 Street Y or the Jewish Community Center.The origins of such monies are unexplained; neither are the countries or entity advancing such huge donations. Most US mosques, including many in Brooklyn, Queens and the Bronx are funded directly or indirectly by Saudi Arabia the country to which 15 of the 19 hijackers who bombed the World TradeCenter belonged. The UAE, Qatar and Iran are other major sponsors across the USA.

So because there is a strong possibility that the money for the mosque was provided by the same Saudi Arabia, some political officials feel that is enough ground to fight against the efforts to build it.

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Tags: 911, Mosque, Muslim, New York, Terrorists

LIVE DROP SHOW CANCELLATION

Jul 19, 2010 Featured

What’s up Droppers!!  I just wanted to send out a quick message to all of you apologizing for the abrupt cancellation of our LIVE Drop Show. I know many of you were looking forward to it… but have no fear!!!  Season 3 will be COMING SOON and more details on future LIVE Drops will be coming your way!

Again thank you all for your continued support and love!

C’Yo

Tags: cancellation, live drop, ustream

King James vs Dan Gilbert: Majority Owner Loses Majority of Profits

Jul 9, 2010 Featured, Let's Talk About It: Discussion Board

LeBron James’ decision to take his fate in his own hands and move to Miami for a chance at a championship has seem to become an emotional epidemic.  James, 25 voiced his decision Thursday, the 8^th of July.  He will join forces with Chris Bosh and the awesome Dwayne Wade.  While his decision remains purely business , his hometown and franchise owner seems to have a different taste on his words.  Dan Gilbert , majority owner of the franchise- the Cleveland Cavaliers,  prior to LeBron’s decision seemed composed and respectful. After the decision was announced, Gilbert’s true colors came out  when he stated:

“ This was announced with a several day, narcissistic, self-promotional build-up culminating with a national TV special of his “decision” unlike anything ever “witnessed” in the history of sports and probably the history of entertainment.

The good news is that …your hometown Cavaliers have not betrayed you nor NEVER will betray you.

You simply don’t deserve this kind of cowardly betrayal.

“I PERSONALLY GUARANTEE THAT THE CLEVELAND CAVALIERS WILL WIN AN NBA CHAMPIONSHIP BEFORE THE SELF-TITLED FORMER ‘KING’ WINS ONE””.  The exact letter can be read at: http://www.nba.com/cavaliers/news/gilbert_letter_100708.html .

This statement summed up the total sentiment Gilbert truly felt about James. Ohio locals and their antics accompanied by the negative comments made just proves what has always been an underlying factor. Because this is a blog I can give my OPINION and not be apologetic about it.  James’ decision proved hard for him and he had to do what was right for him.  Emotionally speaking, no one loves leaving home. His family/ friends are in Ohio and there is where his career began. Gilbert feels betrayed? Yeah right. This all equates to money. The Dinero. Benjamins. Guap. Fetti. Broccoli. Euro. Franc. Comprende? Good. There is no loyalty in pro athleticism.  Follow me for a bit.  Lets take Carl Landry , formerly of my hometown team- THE HOUSTON ROCKETS.  The poor fellow was blindsided by his  trade.  Whenever a franchise can acquire a seemingly better player or seat filler, a player is traded.  If the player injures himself, he is traded. If  he doesn’t fill those stadium seats companies had bid wars for in naming, he is traded; released early from his contract.  So if a franchise can trade a under contract player whenever, why can’t a free agent choose his fate?  Do you think  Gilbert  honestly felt betrayed?  The only thing hurting is Gilbert’s checkbook. Now he  can’t afford a Bugatti every two weeks.  Boo Hoo.  Why do you think companies have bid wars for naming playing facilities?  MONEY. Every game played at their facility draws attention and money to their company.  Where was the loyalty in endorsements for Tiger Woods?  There was none. He didn’t cheat on his endorsements . Tiger cheated on his wife. Did that  stop them from snatching some? Nope. Do you want to know why?  If the companies Tiger represented continued to hold Tiger in esteem after his infidelity, they would lose more money. Women are America’s number one consumer. They buy for themselves, husbands, kids , family and friends. What they don’t buy, they get their husbands and boyfriends to.  Everything equals money.

Gilbert released those statements because that’s how he felt about James in his heart. He tolerated James enough as long as he filled those seats at Cleveland Clinic Courts. People bought season ticket to see LeBron James play not the Cleveland Cavaliers. If the Cavaliers was such a grand team, why were they looking for one man to lead them.  James carried the team. There was no Kobe and Gasol or Garnett and Pierce. Where was the Pippin for Cleveland’s Jordan? They didn’t attempt to find the Drexler for Olajuwan and Gilbert has the audacity to be mad?

Furthermore the so called fans who are now calling pro athletes thugs and low life’s undeserving of their money ; what about them?  James plays ball because he loves the game and wants to have the ultimate payment- a championship ring.  LeBron is taking a pay cut and splicing his limelight. He shares the center stage with Wade and Bosh. So his decision is purely business.  Gilbert’s statement  and fans antics are purely extensions of how corporate America and its ambassadors feel about the their puppets.  How can the Cavaliers be mad? How did they acquire Shaq? Through a trade. Sleazy is as sleazy does and for the record, I wouldn’t want my child growing up to be a _________________ (insert name) like Gilbert. Is his display of professionalism is what we want to teach our children? Do we want them to think that it’s ok to cry like an infant girl when someone beats you at your own game or you do not get your way? Where is Gilbert’s manhood? If I had a child with him, I’d tell my seed that he/she was adopted. How is that for betrayal? BANG, BANG, BANG and POW!

This article was written by Pretty Nikki…….

Hailing from Missouri City, Texas( a suburb of Houston, TX) , Nik attends McNeese State where she is working on a dual mastersin Marketing and Communications. Aspiring to be an entertainment lawyer, Nik sharpens her ability to construct a great argument through casual debates, free lance writing and informal conversations. Often seen as versatile, Nik attributes her ability to adapt to her strange ear for music.  “ I listen to everything… Hip Hop, Neo-Soul, Jazz, R&B, the real Soul music .”

Her dreams are as large as her heart. “Ultimately I want to be an icon. I am hoping to succeed in law so that I may pay for medical school and be able to give my services as a cardio vascular surgeon free of charge.”

Quote she lives by:  “The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm…”

Tags: basketball, King James, LeBron, Miami, NBA

So You Think You Can Blog?

Jul 7, 2010 Featured

*Attention*

Do you want to work in the entertainment industry but looking for way to make you more competitive in the field?

The Drop Show is looking for free lance writers to contribute to the-dropshow.com. This experience can be used as an internship opportunity for college students, a platform to publish the work for young journalist and an outlet of expression for those who love to write.

Writngs should include but not be limited to societal issues, politics, music/entertainment, or community service projects. If you are interested, please send a sample piece along with your contact information to cyo@the-dropshow.com.

Tags: blogging, internship, opportunity, writers

Engaged: He Liked it, Put A Ring On it, So He Better Marry it!

Jul 7, 2010 Featured

The spark for this blog came from the wonderfully juice and drama filled show- Basketball Wives.  I know,  an odd source, but the show demonstrated the ideal concept of this blog, marriage.   Because she and her situation illustrates my argument so well, the muse I will use is the cast member Gloria. Which leads me to my question. Is a marriage certificate an agreement of love or entitlement. If it is either/or, can it encompass the other?

On one episode cast member Gloria tells another cast member Royce she will never be wifey made. Hearing that statement made me analyze Gloria’s situation.  She is the mother of three children and engaged to NBA player- Matt Barnes.  She believes everyone is jealous of her because she has the ideal relationship. Not to mention she stands by her sister who was reported to have had and alleged affair with Shaq.

Revisiting the jealousy accusation carried by Gloria.  Matt Barnes, NBA player and her fiance is a mediocre player. So the notion of the other women being jealous of their relationship maybe b a bit much but her believing they have the ideal family is where I really find flaw.  I understand that all NBA players do not have Lebron and Kobe’s salary, but they have access to money, including Matt Barnes.  So why are they engaged?  If being pressed about having a lavish wedding is an issue, after having their second baby, I would think just signing the paper would be good enough.  Personally, I think he is using her and she is just the current hotness. If something better comes along, he will leave her.

Until you say I do, you are a girlfriend with the promise of being a wife.  This is why I feel that being engaged and being a wife are two totally different things and I observed that some women in general do not realize this.  If you are committed,  already playing house, why not go to the justice of the peace and sign on the dotted line?

For those who may not understand why people get engaged, from my experience people get engaged to set a date and plan the wedding and the aspects of combining their lives.  If you are already in house, doing the laundry, sex on the regular and procreating, engaged seems to be a  ‘gratification’ term. Saying I will marry you allows a person to remain ‘uncommitted’ while seeming committed.  If one person decides to leave, the other would be left with only the memory and nothing else. (that beats the hell out of a prenuptial..lol)

I’ve actually entertained a conversation where a person argued that reaching a mutual agreement between the couple should be able to stand as marriage and of course I said no. It is my belief that signing the paper is an act of entitlement. Not just to money, but life itself.  When a person place their name on that dotted line it means they will have a say in all the matters.  On the contrary, if the paper is just a paper and it means absolutely nothing, why not sign it? Why not honor the person you love? What do you think….?

this article was written by….

Hailing from Missouri City, Texas( a suburb of Houston, TX) , Nik attends McNeese State where she is working on a dual mastersin Marketing and Communications. Aspiring to be an entertainment lawyer, Nik sharpens her ability to construct a great argument through casual debates, free lance writing and informal conversations. Often seen as versatile, Nik attributes her ability to adapt to her strange ear for music.  “ I listen to everything… Hip Hop, Neo-Soul, Jazz, R&B, the real Soul music .”

Her dreams are as large as her heart. “Ultimately I want to be an icon. I am hoping to succeed in law so that I may pay for medical school and be able to give my services as a cardio vascular surgeon free of charge.”

Quote she lives by:  “The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm…”

Tags: advice, basketball, Bride, love, marriage, relationships, women

CRAZY AND DAMN PROUD OF IT!

Jul 5, 2010 Free Flow

I am convinced my mind works like no other.  Well, maybe there are a very select few of people that walk this green earth who, like me, think about life inside and out.  They question the most believed theories and challenge the most talked about notions, ultimately to seek the truth to man kind’s very existence.  Sometimes they can be the person that easily takes one sentence from a light careless conversation and transform it into a deep, thoughtful mind exercise; thus Becoming the reason all the people who were talking walk away thinking of the information shared in a whole different light.

If these people exist outside of me, they too, are loved dearly by those who really know them and despised by those who were introduced to their intellect before their heart.

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Tags: crazy, deranged, thinkers

TAKE THAT IPHONE 4!!

Jul 5, 2010 Featured

As a Black Berry fanatic, I’ve been sitting in the cut waiting for the first opportunity to lash out at these Iphone 4 users.  Some may call me a hater others may say I’m just bitter but either way, I’m #teamBlackBerry to my dying day..lol.   Now don’t get me wrong, I am also a huge supporter of Apple.  I’m an owner of an Imac and macbook.  Soon to be owner of an Ipad but when it comes to phones I prefer a device that keeps me on target with all of the latest technological advances while being easy to use.  For example, as result of my genetics, my fat finger tips and motor skills are are not a good fit for touch screen phones.  This is why I love my black berry bold.  I am able to look cool while punching a good trusty touch pad..lol. An Iphone for me would cause nothing but sure headaches, however, the 4g internet speed, video chatting/editing and smaller size that uses less battery to allow multitasking sounds great.

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Tags: apple, blackberry, iphone, mac, phones, technology. apple